Why Couples Formed On “The Bachelor” Are Bound To Fail

[caption id="attachment_835270" align="alignleft" width="1068"] Abc.go.com[/caption] Millions of people tuned in to watch the recent season of “The Bachelor” and the show’s ratings just keep rising. The show doesn’t only appeal to the same demographic featured on the series (namely the 18 to 35 group)—“The Bachelor” has raised in the rankings for viewers ages up to 49 in recent years. But does everybody who watches the show love the show? That’s certainly up for debate, as CNN pointed out based on the rather critical Tweets of the program they rounded up in this article. Many people “hate-watch” the show, and maybe they’re right to. Do you think the women on the show are smart to put their dating adventures on national television? Or that the premise of the show is even the making of a good relationship? We don’t. Here is why couples formed on shows like “The Bachelor” are bound to fail.   [caption id="attachment_619809" align="alignleft" width="420"] Corbis[/caption]

They meet on vacation

Couples formed on “The Bachelor” are often bound to fail for the same reason long-distance relationships fail; that’s not real life. Everyone is removed from their regular responsibilities, obligations, stresses, and relationships to be on the show. Just like you are when you travel to visit your long-distance boyfriend. But once you have to be with someone in real life—with work and family and stress involved—you both change.         [caption id="attachment_620425" align="alignleft" width="389"] Corbis Images[/caption]

Many come on the show heartbroken

At some point on every season, we usually discover that the women are overcoming some tragedy—perhaps a divorce, being cheated on, losing a loved one in a tragic accident and more. The casting directors seem to love anyone who, quite frankly, should probably be in grief therapy right now instead of on a reality show. Long story short is that many of these women have wounds that still need to heal, and that can make it hard to dedicate one’s whole self to a relationship.           [caption id="attachment_698271" align="alignleft" width="468"] Shutterstock.com/Woman with a suitcase[/caption]

They often don’t live in the same states

Women are cast from all over the country. What’s supposed to happen when a bachelor from Los Angeles matches with a woman from Miami? One person will either need to uproot their life to make the relationship work, or they’ll just have to be long-distance. Neither of those options ever turns out very well.             [caption id="attachment_718323" align="alignleft" width="415"] Shutterstock[/caption]

What’s with those age differences?

It’s not uncommon for the Bachelor to be in his mid to late thirties and the women to be in their early twenties. Sure, 12 years isn’t a huge deal later in life, but the early twenties and late thirties are totally different life phases. A 24-year-old woman is still figuring out who she is, while a 36-year-old man is probably already very established in his career. And may even have a divorce under his belt. A 36-year-old man is better suited to be a mentor than a boyfriend to a woman in her early twenties.         [caption id="attachment_626767" align="alignleft" width="420"] Corbis[/caption]

The guy kind of cheated on the show

It’s no secret that the bachelor usually kisses and even sleeps with several women throughout the season. Somehow, since it’s on a show, that makes it okay. But when the final couple goes home, that woman has the knowledge that the bachelor basically cheated on her. At the very least, he has some player tendencies.           [caption id="attachment_610668" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Many have nothing else going for them

This is not coming from a place of judgment but more a place of reality. Many of the women who go on “The Bachelor” are still finding their way as individuals. Many are still in school or have a job they do not care about because they just don’t know what they want to do. When you still have the major life event of determining and pursuing your passion in front of you, it’s very hard to commit to a relationship or know what life will look like in five years. In other words, a couple may get along fine while the woman is working at a coffee shop with a predictable schedule, but what happens when she decides to go to medical school? Or start her own business? And becomes too busy to date?   [caption id="attachment_694844" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

The competition is unhealthy

The producers of “The Bachelor” know that high demand drives up the price of a product. A lot of women on the show probably think they’re attracted to the bachelor, all because other women are attracted to him. This isn’t a realistic way to assess whether or not you like someone.             [caption id="attachment_609049" align="alignleft" width="415"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Only the most aggressive can survive

Because the show is so competitive, only the women who are willing to deal with the drama—and even create some—survive. In other words, if we are honest, some of the less-than-stable women get the farthest on the show. And less-than-stable people don’t make for great romantic partners.             [caption id="attachment_620857" align="alignleft" width="420"] Corbis[/caption]

You have to be a little off to apply

We are all thinking it so let’s just say it; the mere fact somebody would want to A) Have their dating journey broadcasted on national television B) Subject themselves to competing with other women for one man and C) Be willing to accept money to be humiliated or air their dirty laundry on television means that that person probably already has a few personal issues they need to address before they should even consider being in a relationship.           [caption id="attachment_714451" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

The spotlight is hard on any relationship

It cannot be easy for a woman to “win” (and it’s a shame we have to use that term) the show and then read the millions of Tweets about how she’s the wrong woman for the guy, how she’s not attractive, how she’s dumb, and all the other mean things the Internet tends to sling. That amount of spotlight is bound to make even the most secure woman feel insecure and act out.           [caption id="attachment_710970" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

The bachelors tend to be loaded

Chris Soules is worth $1.5 million, as is Bob Guiney. Andrew Firestone is worth $50 million. You can find the net worth of the others online, but it’s nothing to sneeze at. What’s the point of this information? That the show probably attracts….here it is…gold diggers! I’d love to see a guy with a modest job, like the IT guy at some no-name company, be the bachelor. Then I’d love to see how many women still applied.           [caption id="attachment_611703" align="alignleft" width="420"] Shutterstock[/caption]

Life is boring when they get home

Vacation syndrome strikes again. Everybody gets along when all they have to do is ride horses on the beach, drink champagne in hot air balloons and get couples massages. What’s there to fight about? But when the couple gets home, life will be a bit boring. What many of these couples thought was a genuine spark is probably just movie magic. And all that champagne.           [caption id="attachment_705379" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

The women just instantly like him?

“The Bachelor” isn’t like a regular matchmaking service where the women get to fill out a sheet with all the qualities they are looking for in a man, and are presented with plenty of options. Nope. They have the one option. And somehow, they all like the guy instantly? That’s not very realistic. Again, they probably tell themselves they like him because the cameras and the competition are on.           [caption id="attachment_721333" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

There’s too much pressure to succeed

The final couple is typically obligated to do several follow-up interviews, months or even a year after the show, where they show the world how well they are doing! They are smothered by the media after the show. The pressure to make it work and get along can, in fact, cause a lot of fights.             [caption id="attachment_707166" align="alignleft" width="420"] Image Source: Shutterstock[/caption]

If that guy didn’t have an ego before…

If that bachelor didn’t think he was God’s gift to mankind before the show, he probably does after. How can a man’s ego not become enormous when over a dozen gorgeous women fight over him? And a big ego doesn’t usually make for a good partner.

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