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I’m a traveler. When I say that, I mean I’ve traveled my whole life. I was raised by a single mom who taught me from birth that exposure to different cultures and foreign ways of thinking would ensure I’d always have opportunities in this world. And so, since a little girl, I’ve explored the globe, first with my mom, then by myself throughout college, afterward with my girlfriends, and now with my fiancé.
I was thrilled that when I met Chris he was willing to get up and go with me — most times — when I found a good flight deal or had to travel for work, but during our first pre-marital counseling session recently he hit me with a request I never saw coming: That I stop traveling once we jump the broom
When I asked where that notion came from, Chris said he assumed “keeping a home” was an understood priority once I was a Mrs, especially since we plan on having kids right away. While I’m ready to be a parent as soon as possible too, I envisioned a life where our children would travel with us, like I did with my mom as a child. When I mentioned this, Chris brought up the extra costs and hassle of traveling with children and the need for kids to have a sense of normalcy and stability which he argued regularly packing up and hopping on planes doesn’t provide.
Our pastor tried to move us toward a compromise, like traveling less versus not at all, but Chris was unwavering. I can deal with not going abroad for some time but the idea of my kids not seeing the world isn’t something I can budge on. What do I do?
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